Friday, August 7, 2009


Dr. D's office just called and offered us some financing options if we wanted to do another fresh cycle. Just to give you an idea... this is them being generous. They are being so generous because of our loss of Avery and our two failed FETs.

Amount due at trial transfer (where they measure length of uterus- done a week or two before egg retrieval) -$7400

Amount due every month for next year - $366.67

Amount for anesthesia - approx $500

Amount for meds - between $3000-$6000

Cost includes 3 total transfers ( so if we had embryos to freeze he would do 2 additional transfers for free)

Total approximate cost - $18,292

This number does not include any additional testing if that might be needed. It also does not include lodging if we ever have to stay overnight, gas for traveling back and forth for appointments, meals while we are in Las Vegas, and of course it doesn't cover the $500 a year fee for storing any frozen embryos. There is also the cost of having blood tests run here in cedar as well as ultrasounds done by Dr. S. Or, if we chose to ship the blood the cost would cover the blood tests but not the shipping. (These tests are often done every other day or every few days for many weeks)

I have kindly thanked them for their generous offer and told them that maybe in a couple of years we will be able to afford it and will contact them then. Although, it doesn't seem likely that the offer will stand in a couple of years. I just wanted to give you all an idea of what we are facing if we want to try to get me pregnant again. Just think... the most that some people spend might be $15 for a bottle of wine or maybe even $100 for a hotel room. Most people, however, would just get busy at home or in the back seat of a car and PRESTO! in nine months they get to take home a precious little baby to love and cherish. Half or more of those people probably didn't even want to get knocked up in the first place.

So you can see why I am sad, depressed, bitter, angry, confused, upset, emotional, frustrated, anxious, sick, disappointed, unsure, etc., etc. Do you really blame me?

Can I say it again?..... IT JUST ISN'T FAIR!


Amy Jo said...

Nope, it is not fair at all and I don't blame you for your feelings. I am truly so sorry that you have to go thru all that in hopes of becoming pregnant. I wish that there was something that I could do. And, I promise, that if I win the lottery, you are absolutely first on my list. I would like more than anything for you to raise a child, my friend. I'll continue to keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.

Steph said...

Couldn't you do a fundraiser in your hometown, a silent auction and dinner? I bet people would donate.

Patty Sampson said...

I am with Steph, we all want to see you succeed. And I bet if we pooled our resources things would be a lot more affordable.

Another thought....we looked into adoption. And with LDS Social Services the fee is only 10% of your yearly income. There are other qualifiers. But this seemed a lot happier option to us.

Lindsay-Weaver said...

So frustrating! I'm sorry!

Lisa said...

Candi - is there any way you could set up a fundraiser through your blog which would allow all of your followers to donate money. I know there are so many people following your blog you might be surprised at how much money you could raise from all your followers. It would only take 180 people to donate $100 to raise $18,000. I know I would be more than happy to donate $100 to see you get another chance at IVF so your dream of having a biological child could come true.

Does anyone know how to setup a fundraiser online???

I really want you to get another chance at IVF with your own eggs so anything I can do to help out, just let me know.

Krista said...

Hi Candi,

I am a friend of Lisa's from our infant loss group, and I have been following your site this summer from a link from Lisa's. My heart aches for you. I know the pain of losing a baby, and I am so sorry that you are dealing with infertility as well. We all want your dream of bringing home a baby to come true. I think anyone who reads your story would love to reach out and help. I love the idea of an online fundraiser. I understand that might be uncomfortable for you to set up yourself, but maybe your followers could do it for you. Hugs, Krista

Robyn said...

I agree Candi! I don't know you but I've been following your blog for a while and would love to help you in any way possible. I have not dealt with losing a child so I can't imagine how you feel, but I have dealt with infertility so I can understand the pain and frustrations that come with that. I think an online fundraiser is a great idea, I hope you or one of your friends can set it up. :o)

Never forgetting Gregory said...

Nope. I don't blame you at all. It is so not fair. I hate how just the chance at a child is so expensive and out of reach for wonderful parents and a "burden" to others. My thoughts are with you.

Anonymous said...


I think you should try and set-up a donation page. I have been following your blog and would gladly donate $100 towards IVF. I would also consider being an egg donor for you if you ever decided to go that route. I agree with the ladies above, I think you do not realize how many supporters you have out there who empathize with your situation and who find strength and courage from you!